On this day 2018.
Celebrating a year of daily cartoons.
We conspire in all kinds of ways to hold onto, share, and relive our stories, to keep each other and our memories in our own lifetimes for our own wellbeing and self-reflections, and to pass ourselves and our consciousness down to next generations. What's one way that you remember yourself or others?
Sometimes we really benefit from a social collaborator, someone to help us through a potentially rocky or big or emotional situation. Even with outlandish help or a wacky plan, it may feel comforting just to have someone trying to work it out with us. And a little pre-planning can go a long way. What is something you talk over with a support person before arriving at a social event together?
Sometimes our inside voices give us permission to be doing exactly the right thing, the thing we most need and want in that moment. How are you colluding with yourself for coziness, connection, celebration, or whatever else you may be getting into today?
When we're together, sometimes weird, fabulous, and surprising things can happen that just cannot or do not or would not happen if we had not come together. What's something awesome that you've done with one other person, or with a few or many other people?
When we get together sometimes we really get together. We may experience feelings of losing ourselves in each other, becoming one, merging, entangling, enmeshing. Perhaps none of these experiences are wrong or bad or should be rejected. Yet, we may want to stay aware of these processes. What's something that helps you modulate between merging and individuating?
In truth, people can never share everything about themselves completely openly. In some ways we just don't know everything that there is to share about ourselves. In other words, we can be a mystery to ourselves. In other ways, there isn't time or space to share it all, and it wouldn't be healthy or desired to know everything about everyone, maybe not even about ourselves. Yet, knowingly holding onto a secret can bring up complicated feelings. What are some of the feelings you have about the secrets you keep?
Some DIY projects can bring us life, power, and joy. What's something you love to do yourself?
Expanding good will in the world may be a practice that we can engage in, return to, and hone by focusing our attention on many different beings, on ourselves, on family, friends, and acquaintances, on those we dislike and people with whom we disagree morally, on animals, plants, nonliving objects, and at times with all beings. Who are you sending good will to today?
Sometimes it takes an extraordinary effort to undo and redo some of the harder, more prickly interpersonal strategies we learned early in life — strategies that may have once helped and protected us, but that we no longer primarily need or want to draw on. Consistent practice over time can retrain our brains and bodies to think differently and be different in new contexts. But the practice is generally not perfect along the way and we may keep doing old behaviors in spite of our best intentions. This part of the process can be very humbling, and it can take a lot of willingness, self-compassion, and perseverance to keep going each time an old strategy rears up again. What new interpersonal strategy are you practicing with this year?
We maybe all have different or quirky or cute ways of getting ourselves present with and in our lives, ways of remembering that we are in fact alive and that we matter right now. In this very moment, how are you reminding yourself that you are alive?
I love you already.
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