It's amazing actually how different what we say can be from what we're thinking and on top of that what we may believe at an unconscious level. How do you remind yourself that the words we say aren't the whole of what we think and mean?
[image description: Two hearts face each other. One heart exclaims, "You're beautiful!" while its shadow reads, "I wish someone would say that to me." The other heart consciously thinks, "I hardly know you," while its shadow reads, "Where is my voice?"]